Myth #1 You Need to Know the “How” Before You Can Achieve Anything
Why it’s a myth: As any inventor or creative person can tell you, there is often just the spark of an idea at the start of the creative process. The “how” is revealed through the creative process itself. The reality is if you have 1) clarity about what you really want and what is important to you 2) motivation to take action and 3) confidence in yourself , you have all the necessary ingredients to begin achieving any goal. As any creative person knows, the “how” is revealed to you as you take whatever actions you are inspired to take. It is all part of the process.
Why this myth doesn’t work: If your thinking mind believes it doesn’t know the how, it also believes it can’t achieve the goal. This of course, is not true, as most solutions come from outside of us in unexpected ways. This myth is probably the number one reason why so many people procrastinate about achieving their goals. They believe they have to know “all the steps” in advance before they can begin. This stops them before they start.
Why people like to believe this myth: Ironically, believing this myth only serves people in two very unconscious ways. 1)they have an excuse to not take action and so avoid possible “failure” 2) they get to stay in their zone of “comfort”.
What you should do instead: If you have a big goal that seems intimidating, start with baby steps. Your actions will always lead to your next step. If you do get stuck, clear your emotional mind using a technique designed for that purpose, such as tapping, hypnotherapy, or some other method that releases subconscious blocks.
Myth#2 You Need to Push Yourself Out of Your Comfort Zone to Achieve Anything Worthwhile
Why it’s a myth: This is a an endemic cultural myth that basically says nothing worthwhile is achieved without laborious hard work. However, as any creative person can tell you, when you are emotionally aligned with a goal, work is play. You are in the “zone”, which is an exhilarating pleasurable feeling.
Why this myth doesn’t work: If you feel like you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone to reach a goal it is because your emotional mind is not aligned with that goal. Your emotional mind is your creative engine. If it’s not aligned with your goal it’s like the motor in your car is not operating. If it was, you would be moving forward towards it effortlessly. It really is this simple. Having to push yourself out of your comfort zone is a sign you are working against your own natural drives. It actually makes it much more difficult to achieve your goal in a truly satisfying way. Here’s why:
Whenever you use your willpower to override uncomfortable feelings in order to take action, you are overriding a part of you that is trying to give you information. You are overriding a part of yourself that is trying to re-direct you. You do not know whether your uncomfortable feeling is your fearful emotional mind saying “I am afraid I am going to fail” or whether it is your intuition saying ” Stop, wait! There is a better way. Let me show you.” Unless you identify what that uncomfortable feeling is and release it, you are operating in the dark. You have absolutely no clue whether what you are going to do will work or fail miserably.
Why people like to believe this myth: It makes us feel powerful and in control when we push out of our comfort zone, when we override feelings to take action. On a certain level, it is healthy to be the master of our emotions. The problem comes when we override our emotions too much and too often. We then lose the clarity that comes from connecting to our authentic self.
What you should do instead: Do not push yourself hard to take actions that feel uncomfortable. If you tend to be a workaholic, this may take a bit of practice. First work releasing on your inner subconscious blocks and getting clarity. Doing this before taking any significant action protects you against making costly unnecessary mistakes. Clarity re-connects you to your real values. It also has the added bonus of giving you natural confidence that makes you attractive to what you want.
Myth#3 Positive Thinking Will Always Create A Positive Outcome
Why it’s a myth: Our egos would like us to believe that we can “just change our thoughts” and change our reality. But what is creating our reality is not our conscious thoughts, it is our subconscious emotional mind. Positive thinking over time may eventually change your emotional mind, but in reality it is a slow process.
Why this myth doesn’t work: It is tempting to think if we just “think positively enough”, good things will happen. Positive thinking can be useful when you are discouraged or worrying unnecessarily about a situation and need to shift your perspective. However, as a problem-solving or goal achievement method it’s use is limited. Positive thinking is often used to elevate mood, dispel doubts, and avoid uncomfortable feelings in the face of uncertainty. Again, these types of uncomfortable feelings can be coming from either intuition or negative/limiting beliefs. Until you release the subconscious blocks that are causing your uncomfortable feelings you simply will not have the clarity to see what is actually happening.
Why people like to believe this myth: As we stated before, positive thinking is often used to elevate mood, dispel doubts, and avoid uncomfortable feelings in the face of uncertainty. It feels good to think positive, especially if one is fearful of seeing an uncomfortable truth.
What you should do instead: You cannot solve a problem at the same level of consciousness at which it was created. You have to elevate your consciousness above the problem. You can then see the problem for what it really is and in doing so see the solution. Removing blocks in your emotional mind allows you to rise above your uncomfortable feelings and see your goal clearly and objectively for what it is–free from the coloring of negative and/or wishful thinking. This gives you clarity, liberates a tremendous amount of creative energy, and makes “positive thinking” no longer necessary.
What do you think? What has been your experience with these myths and achieving your goals? I would love to hear about it. Please leave your comments below.